If you’re anything like me, you are probably tired of trying to meet people locally. It seems like everywhere I go, the people I see already have their friend circles and aren’t interested in welcoming ‘strangers’ or newbies to the group. Don’t get me wrong; I’ve tried. I’ve gone to local meetups and social events and met some really nice people but none that had welcomed me with open arms to come hang out with them and their friends. So like any smart, technologically-savvy person would do, I turned to Facebook. I mean, I’d heard that it’s pretty common to have a relationship on Facebook so maybe it would work for me. And work it did. I started out by signing up for several Facebook groups that I knew I had an interest in. I like geocaching and stuff like that so I found a group dedicated solely to the subject (among others) in my state and made it a point to become very active on it. I met plenty of people there and it was great because, right off the bat, I knew I had something in common with the other people in the group. Before too long, I had been having lots of back-and-forth posts—and even some private messages—with this girl I found interesting. After a month or so of this, we agreed to meet up to go—what else?—geocaching! We had a great time and have gone on a few more adventures together since then. We’re dating though it’s not yet anything serious. Who knows if it’ll go that route but even if it doesn’t, one thing I realized is that it is more than possible to use Facebook in a relationship. Whoever says relationships and Facebook aren’t compatible doesn’t know what they’re talking about. I’m living proof that they are possible and they can take whatever form you’d like them to.
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That was a question I’d been asking myself for several years of little to no success dating. I’d had my share of dates with local ladies and the relationships would simply run their course. I’d even given some online dating sites a try but never seemed to have the luck that I’d heard about others having on them. I’d heard inklings of a ‘friend of a friend’ having some success via Facebook and that made me wonder if it is truly was possibly to be part of a relationship Facebook was responsible for making happen so I set out to discover for myself. The first thing I did was make it a point to sign up for several local groups in my community, even a moms group (hey, there were bound to be some single moms in there, right?). I then made it a point to start posting when I had the chance. I’d respond to interesting posts others made and just set about making myself an active member so others would maybe want to get to know me better. It worked out pretty well and I did start up some great friendships with a few ladies and even had some dates too. But, more importantly, I’ve had a few contacts go on to become something more, so I’d say that relationships and Facebook go hand-in-hand. There is one lady who I’ve really gotten to know quite well. We’ve spent a lot of time private messaging and sharing a lot of information about ourselves together. I’ve been a bit hesitant to set up an actual date because things are going so well the way they are and what if the date turns out to be a dud? I know that’s slightly irrational but also possible so therein lies the rub. Do I or don’t I? Regardless of which way I ultimately decide to go, I can say with confidence that it’s more than possible to use Facebook in a relationship. I have never been the kind of person to go online to find a date because I always thought that you could easily meet someone scary, like a stalker or a killer who was looking for their next victim. I was always truly afraid to do so especially from all the horror stories you hear on television. I always went the old fashioned way, but realized that you could easily meet someone like that in person as well. So I conquered my fear and went online and browsed through so many sites that I was just getting annoyed and was just ready to throw in the towel, until I got this bright idea to check out my Facebook to see if you can find someone that way. To my own luck there is a way to discover singles who live in your area and you can easily get to know them on a personal level. So I searched through and decided to utilize the tool bar and searched relationship Facebook which really helped me out, because not only did it find people who were searching for relationships, it narrowed the search down to people in my area and even in my neighborhood. So I finally started chatting with some local men and came across someone who gave me those butterflies. I messaged him and we ended up talking for hours and now after a few months we have been steadily dating. The only issue that I have is that using Facebook in a relationship can cause so many issues including jealousy and trust issues. You know you are dating someone and you look at their Facebook page and you see so many other beautiful women and it makes you wonder if he is cheating on you with them among other things. Sometimes you just need to calm down and relax, and if you have issues to just be honest and ask questions. Overall Facebook and relationships go hand in hand and can easily play a role in any relationship; it all just depends on how you interpret everything. Let’s be honest, if you’re not on Facebook today, you’re missing out on a whole lot more than just the mundane status updates of your friends and family members. You probably don’t even realize just what you’re missing. Well let me help you out. In this fast-paced, crazy world we live in, more and more people than ever before are in a relationship on Facebook. Sounds nuts, right? But I assure you that it’s not. Relationships and Facebook actually make perfect sense for a few reasons. One being that millions, if not billions, of people the world over belong to Facebook. Not only that, but they’re using it to mix and mingle in a variety of public and private groups that you probably weren’t even aware existed (well, how would you since you’re not on the site?). Facebook has personally been responsible for bringing about my two most recent relationships so I think I’m a pretty good resource when it comes to how to be in a relationship on Facebook. Allow me to share some of my tips and you could soon be thanking the social media giant yourself. First of all, join already! What are you waiting for? It’s literally like a huge ocean full of ‘fish to catch.’ After signing up, search to find some common interest groups you could join. Do you like death metal? Scuba diving? Techno music? Whatever it is that you’re into, there are bound to be tons of others who are too. Once you’ve found some of these groups, join them and then start posting on their walls. You won’t regret it. You can almost instantly start connecting with people from all over who share your specific interests—that’s a great way to start off any potential relationship. From there, you’ll soon have a great group of Facebook friends, any of which can easily morph into a relationship on Facebook with enough time and Facebook has been around for years now and I find that I am someone who can get around a computer no problem and especially the internet. You could call me one of those internet savvy guys because truthfully I don’t have much else going for me, especially since I work all hours of the day and come home to my nagging girlfriend who always has energy to go out to fancy places. I find that really, I don’t like going out after a long hard day of work and truthfully, as much as I love her, I feel that we no longer have the same interests. I know it’s bad but I turned to the internet and started chatting in the Facebook sex page and I know that is bad enough but now I’m Facebook cheating too! I am not proud of myself but that is as far as it has gone for me, just talking away with local single females who understand me like my girlfriend used too. I know relationships are hard work and I don’t ever plan on leaving her for anyone I meet online but I just can’t help myself, it’s just so great to talk to someone who will listen. I haven’t taken it that far to the point of Facebook sexting but I have my needs too and it’s great making new friends who I am able to say what I want and flirt if it feels right. Maybe my girlfriend and I are not meant to be and maybe she needs someone who has the energy she does and the interests she does. Don’t get me wrong, I would be lost without her and what I am doing is not the smartest thing but it is all innocent and Facebook is not a bad place to meet new people who I can easily open up too and is a great way to find new connections. |
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